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How can I change their mind?
These days, most of my thoughts around curiosity, ending divisiveness, and creating community have been going straight into my podcast, A...
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Stay sharp: Remarks to the Wheaton College Class of 2024
Hello! Congratulations! And thank you so much for this amazing honor, what in the world, this is still not quite real – I have my husband...
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With a little help from my friends
Hey friend, It occurred to me the other day that I’m learning constantly from some very thoughtful, curious, and hard-working friends...
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My new Braver Way podcast is here!
It’s here! 😱 My brand new podcast, A Braver Way, is out in the world with three new episodes — yes, THREE — razor-focused on the...
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Announcing my brand new podcast!
It’s finally official! A Braver Way, a brand new podcast I’m hosting about how to stay curious across divides, launches October 2023 and...
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Don’t believe your (f)ears
Partway through my curiosity workshop this summer, after an exercise where participants came up with quick questions about each other’s...
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10 curiosity approved books
Why do we read? We read to escape. We read to learn. And we read for this bright, shining moment of illumination where we understand...
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One curious summer
Breathless in Aspen We started our adventure at the Aspen Ideas Festival, where I gave the most winded talk of my entire life. Our flight...
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Shame on… who?
Shame is that feeling you get when you realize you’ve violated the norms of your community. But it only works when it comes from your...
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‘Because they don’t know you…’
“Hurt people hurt people.” It’s a lovely bit of rhetoric that happens to say something profound. To quote my new friend Erin Jones on a...
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Do you trust me?
In my work I think a lot about the relationship between truth and trust. How you need trust to get to truth. Especially the kinds of deep...
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Ask a thousand questions
In my house we are *obsessed* with the soundtrack to Roald Dahl’s Matilda the Musical. Especially “School Song,” a clever track that...
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Oh the places you’ll go
My eyes lingered on a short, quick tweet awhile before I realized it was one of the most delightfully curious compliments I’d ever seen. ...
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We’re so much better than condescension
A conservative friend of mine — let’s call her Jen — just attended one of those dialogue-rich events in a major city with a liberal...
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‘What do you mean by that?’ to the rescue
It started with a question. A man named Alan turned to a woman named Jamie — both of them locals in Edmonds, Washington, who’d signed up...
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The power of people's places
There’s always a bit of awkwardness when you walk into a friend’s home for the first time, a tension I find myself defusing by looking...
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Give the gift of your interest
Ever notice something in you jump in shock when somebody you’re listening closely to says something you really don’t like? That’s what...
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That time I was judgy to judgments
As I packed up from one of my curiosity workshops this summer, a participant named Don came up to me. He was thrilled about what he’d...
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Vote NO on election assumptions
“Don’t assume that what you voted against is what they voted for.” When I read that tip from Nealin Parker in USA Today this week, I...
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Less reactive = more productive.
“Our brains are most productive when there is no demand that they be reactive.” A mentor of mine, psychologist Sherry Turkle, made that...
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